I often advocate waiting for grief to do its work because when we are coming to terms with our loss, we don’t always have the emotional energy that a new relationship may require.
It can also be difficult to be on the receiving end of that loss because your date is not ready to make room in his heart for you because his is still in love with his late wife. (The scene from the movie linked above, really explores this issue).
People often rush the grieving process because they hate being alone and feeling the way that they do. They want the pain to go away and hope a new relationship will help them move on more quickly. Yet the past doesn’t disappear but gets tangled with the present and so the heart can’t work out what belongs where. Though it hurts and is painful, if we can learn to walk through our grief and heal, we give a future relationship freedom from these types of challenges.
I found this wonderful and unique website that offers brilliant advice on the subject. It is great for women in love with or thinking about dating a widower. It also covers many of the same principles that apply to all dating relationships and dispels the myths that keep women loving a man that is not ready for commitment.
Take a look here