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Ever been involved in a private sale where the seller wrote on the receipt ‘sold as seen’? My understanding is once the intended buyer has made their inspection, they have no legal standing to sue the seller if they discover some fault with the item later on.

‘Buyer beware’ is often quoted as a cautionary tale to ensure we ask all the right questions and make a thorough inspection before parting with our hard earned cash but every day, there are those of us who have ended up with faulty goods due to poor judgement or a deceitful seller.
I often say to my clients that it is worthwhile taking the private sale approach to finding Mr Right as every day there are literally thousands of daters getting seriously involved with someone without adequate time invested in getting to know them.

This can lead to multiple problems later on when they start to get to know their loved one on a much deeper level. They may discover a person that has secrets, hidden flaws, abusive traits or just discover that the attraction was not deep enough to get so seriously involved in the first place.
Now I don’t want to sound pessimistic and put you off finding true love, I just believe that many dating causalities could be avoided if people learn to slow down and truly think about their expectations of dating, what they really need, what they are looking for and how they will recognise someone with those qualities.

Now we all make mistakes in dating, but if you want to decrease repeating those mistakes learn to become a savvy dater. Ask good questions based on what is most important to you in life and inside of people. Also, work on controlling your desire to rush so that you can get to see how your loved one handles the different seasons in his life. For example, how does he deal with stress and what does he do to unwind? How does he handle a lack of money or an abundance of cash? How does he treat family and friends and talk about past relationships? Is he dependable or lives on the edge of life? How does he handle criticism or and is he critical? Is he generous or blaming? What are his life goals? Does he have any, are you walking similar paths?

Find a partner that is ‘sold as seen’ in other words, choose someone you have spent enough time getting to know and accept including his flaws. Take your time and be sure you have peace about moving forward before you make your ‘purchase’ of commitment.

Do you rush into relationships without spending enough time getting to know the person? What might be your reasons for that? What top 10 questions do you need to know about your date?

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